Ali Skylar, Sucky to Soulful
In this episode, I’m really excited to welcome to the Innovabuzz Podcast today, Ali Skylar, who is a personal growth coach, author, business writer and songwriter. She is the founder of Sucky to Soulful which runs a series of workshops and an online course entitled “Transforming Ahh Crap! into a Wholy Shift!”
Ali’s goal is to offer easy and quick shifting tools that help people achieve personal growth at the speed of life. The Sucky To Soulful website, YouTube channel and online and offline books, courses and articles are packed with gutsy, humorous, impactful insights and mindfulness exercises to help clients instantly move from sucky to soulful.
Her husband, Jamie Greenberg on episode 117 introduced us to Ali.
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Show Notes from this episode with Ali Skylar of Sucky to Soulful
Key points and take-aways from this episode include:
- If you make it fun, it is a lot easier to learn.
- Ali”s book “Life Sucks, Just Kidding!” is a book of essays that had to do with all the different areas in her life that had brought her down and how she moved on from suckiness to being more soulful.
- “Transforming Ahh Crap! into a Wholy Shift!” includes seven exercises which is about moving from being sucky to soulful.
- It is one thing to get into a sucky place but it is another thing to really have the tools and the know how to move out of it into a place that is more soulful. Soulful does not necessarily mean happy, joyful, or ecstatic. It can just mean peaceful. It can just mean accepting the situation. A soulful place is a place where you can be who you want to be with whatever circumstance that comes your way.
- A lesson is more about learning who to be while you are going through experiences. It is not about fixing the experience. It is about learning who you are at a more deeper level and a more soulful, spiritual level that allows you to go through life’s journey in a more graceful way.
- Ali’s musical, “What About Me?”, is about people finding their way to make their dreams come true and how far they would be able to go and what they will sacrifice in order to make those dreams come true.
- It is not about changing your children nor their behaviour. It is not about making them do something different nor changing them as people. It is about how you are responding to your children in every moment, because that is where our power lies in terms of who we can be.
- Balance comes from learning how to set boundaries for yourself. Being able to be there for your family and also for yourself, and learning where that line is and how to shift from being in a reactionary place to a more responsive place.
- Shift for the word NO – Nourish One’s self. When you shift your perception about what the word NO means, it allows you to step into a different place that allows you to then make more positive choices that work for both you and the people involved in the situation.
- Being our own business person, we sometimes forget that we are not alone. There are people around us that are being affected by what we do. If you go into any kind of business remembering that, it allows you to work with people in a much more effective, authentic and productive way.
- Your family is really your business. The way you learn how to deal with your kids is the same way you learn to deal with your clients. It is learning how to be persuasive. It is learning your timing. It is seeing people for who they are and being able to work with them in a way that you understand how they move, think, and function in the world that you can find a way to measure that and create results.
- We have all grown up very much in a non-worthy society. We were taught in a lot of ways that we are unworthy. We forget that we are all individually unique, beautiful, incredible souls that are here to share our uniqueness with the world. So much of our culture is about power, money and control. We have lost the real essence of what we are about which is sharing our uniqueness and who we are with everybody we come in touch with.
The Buzz – Our Innovation Round
Here are Ali’s answers to the questions of our Innovation round. Listen to the interview to get the full scoop.
- #1 thing to be more innovative – Trust your gut and write down everything. Write down all your ideas because sometimes you will never know when you will need one of those. Keep creating. Keep writing it down.
- Best thing for new ideas – Writing and being open to ideas coming at different times that I don’t expect. Being ready to notate the ideas and valuing whatever idea comes to you and not judging it. Ideas are like gems. Even if you don’t know exactly what they are for, they are worth exploring and being curious about.
- Favourite tool for innovation – Time. Allocate time in order to make that happen. If you take every moment to be precious and worthy, then you will have time to do what you need to do.
- Keep project / client on track – Making it very clear from the get go that you have to be accountable. Setting dates and times that they need to produce their work. Keeping in touch with them. Being a very positive force in their life and encouraging of the fact that they can meet these deadlines or guidelines.
- Differentiate – Be yourself. We are all different. We all have our uniqueness. Be yourself because everyone else is taken.
To Be a Leader
Be authentic. Be yourself. Leaders are respected because they are confident. They know who they are and they feel very clear that they have something of value to share. Believe in what you are selling and in what you are doing. Believe in who you are and that you have something of value to share, because it is a value to share. It is not so much about the money it is going to make you or how rich you are going to become, but that you are out there to share value and uplift another person.
Ali suggested I interview Lisa Brick, Owner & Principal Coach of Power and Purpose Coaching, and a Partner and Certified Professional Coach of Journey Beyond Divorce. So Lisa, keep an eye on your inbox, for an invitation from us to the InnovaBuzz podcast, courtesy of Ali Skylar.
Cool things about Ali:
- She plays French Horn and piano.
- She wrote and produced children’s CD’s including “Recipes in A Song”, “The Cure for TV-itis”, and “We’re Gonna Have A Baby, and created and performed in the family show “Feelingsongs”.
- She wrote a couple of commercial jingles and produced personalized songs for corporate and personal events.